Again, self-improvement is a great goal. This post is not intended to discourage you from taking charge of your own growth with established programs. It is simply intended to flag a few flaws in most self-help programs that are actually detrimental to our mental health. In part 2, we finish off the list of things […]
Improving ourselves is a great goal. In fact, my belief is that the purpose of therapy is positive change. Self-help can be an important avenue to engage in to make meaningful changes in our lives. In fact, I encourage everyone to take an active role in their improvement and self-help can be a great tool […]
Therapy Speak – What “Gaslighting” and Triggered” really mean “Gaslighting” is showing up all over these days. However, the definition of this term often does not match the ways in which it’s used. The definition of “gaslighting” has a few key features that should be highlighted to illustrate the ways it is misused. First, it […]
One psychological term that has entered the popular vocabulary is “codependent”. On social media, this term often describes someone who is overly invested in their relationship, having gotten to the point where they “need” their partner. Often, the popular use of this term implies that any reliance on your partner for emotional support and stability […]
This seems like the most commonly misused psychological term these days. You may have even heard it in the last few weeks while someone was describing a conflict at work or in their romantic relationship. But what does “narcissist” really mean? First, it’s important to say that narcissism is a collection of traits that exist […]
It’s no secret that there has been an increased focus on taking time for self and implementing self-care strategies to help you through each day. Simply put, self-care is essentially your role of ensuring or improving your own health. Taking care of yourself is a priority, but what if you don’t know how? I know […]
The increased visibility of mental health concerns and therapy have done a lot to reduce the stigma when talking about mental health. The other side of that coin is that people have begun to use terms used in psychology when they may not actually apply. But why are people using/misusing these terms so much these […]
“Never attribute to malice what could adequately be explained by ignorance” Over the years we spend with a person we come to believe certain things about them, not all of them good. For example, we may see our partners as “lazy”, “inconsiderate”, or “self-absorbed”. Although these unflattering beliefs can be problematic in themselves, there is […]
“The measure of a healthy relationship is not if we argue, but how we argue.” Every deep relationship has conflict. It is a necessary outcome of connection. The important thing is how that conflict is managed when it happens, and how we repair after a conflict. Today’s post is more about managing conflict when it […]
By taking just a few extra seconds to stay with a positive experience—even the comfort in a single breath, you’ll help turn a passing mental state into lasting neural structure. Dr. Rick Hanson When it comes to mental health goals, experiencing more positivity and less negativity might be at the top of most people’s list. […]