Therapy Speak – What “Codependent” really means

One psychological term that has entered the popular vocabulary is “codependent”. On social media, this term often describes someone who is overly invested in their relationship, having gotten to the point where they “need” their partner.  Often, the popular use of this term implies that any reliance on your partner for emotional support and stability […]

Therapy Speak – What “Narcissist” Really Means

This seems like the most commonly misused psychological term these days. You may have even heard it in the last few weeks while someone was describing a conflict at work or in their romantic relationship. But what does “narcissist” really mean? First, it’s important to say that narcissism is a collection of traits that exist […]

Revolutionizing how you see self-care

It’s no secret that there has been an increased focus on taking time for self and implementing self-care strategies to help you through each day. Simply put, self-care is essentially your role of ensuring or improving your own health. Taking care of yourself is a priority, but what if you don’t know how? I know […]

Misusing Therapy Speak – how “Narcissist”, “Gaslighting”, “Triggered”, etc., Are So Often Misused

The increased visibility of mental health concerns and therapy have done a lot to reduce the stigma when talking about mental health. The other side of that coin is that people have begun to use terms used in psychology when they may not actually apply. But why are people using/misusing these terms so much these […]

Simply Relationships – Fundamental Attribution Error

“Never attribute to malice what could adequately be explained by ignorance” Over the years we spend with a person we come to believe certain things about them, not all of them good. For example, we may see our partners as “lazy”, “inconsiderate”, or “self-absorbed”. Although these unflattering beliefs can be problematic in themselves, there is […]

Simply Relationships – Having Tough Conversations

“The measure of a healthy relationship is not if we argue, but how we argue.” Every deep relationship has conflict. It is a necessary outcome of connection. The important thing is how that conflict is managed when it happens, and how we repair after a conflict. Today’s post is more about managing conflict when it […]

Simply Relationships – Filling the Love Tank

“Sometimes all you need is a hug from the right person and your stress will melt away” Valentine’s Day can go either way. At its best, it can create deep feelings of gratitude for your partner and your relationship. At its worst, it can highlight everything you feel is wrong or missing in your love […]

Rewiring the Brain for Positivity- Sit with the Positive

By taking just a few extra seconds to stay with a positive experience—even the comfort in a single breath, you’ll help turn a passing mental state into lasting neural structure. Dr. Rick Hanson When it comes to mental health goals, experiencing more positivity and less negativity might be at the top of most people’s list. […]

Dopamine balance – How Trying to Feel Good all the Time Might be Making you Feel Worse

“The paradox is that hedonism, the pursuit of pleasure for its own sake, leads to anhedonia. Which is the inability to enjoy pleasure of any kind.” Dr. Anna Lembke The content of this post is drawn from a great book called Dopamine Nation, by Dr. Anna Lembke.  Dopamine is a powerful neurotransmitter. Common knowledge tends […]

Simply Social Media – Comparison – Part Two: Positive Change

Even though education and awareness are growing around this particular danger, understanding that it is happening doesn’t always translate into stopping the comparison behaviour. This likely comes down to the fact that much of this comparison is happening outside our conscious awareness, and therefore, generally outside of our control.  We are constantly, and subconsciously, building […]