It can feel strange, even wrong, to feel happy after loss. If I’m laughing, does that mean that I have forgotten?  Grief and joy are not opposites; they share the same space – like roommates – One will bring the tissues; the other brings snacks. Grief comes from love and the deeper we love, the […]

It seems like the word “grief” in and of itself is heavy – and I have noticed this in the counselling room with clients, using the language and calling something out as “grief” can change the energy so quickly, with a sudden sense of heaviness rushing in.  I think this is because we often think […]

We often hear that time heals all wounds – but when it comes to grief, it’s not such a linear path it loops, drops and twists without warning – like a steep rollercoaster ride you never asked to ride.  One moment you are steady, then suddenly, a memory hits, and your stomach drops. Noone tells […]

Today, I want to share a few things about grief that truly surprised me—both personally and professionally. Grief doesn’t follow the rules we expect it to, and sometimes the biggest revelations come from the moments we never saw coming.

Something about the dark triggers your inner track star sprint and adrenalin. I don’t believe anyone has ever said “I had the best time in that pitch-black, windowless, damp room beneath earth…so cozy!”  Dark basements are for demonic possession, where serial killers host their side-gigs and from time to time, water damage happens. Pop culture […]

Our fears can come in all shapes and sizes. Some feel more “normal” than others. Why is that? And, how do we know whether they’re “normal”? First, on the topic of feelings – keep in mind, our feelings are a deeply personal experience. So, who really is the judge of whether something is normal at […]

Starting therapy can feel intimidating — and that’s completely normal. In this video, our counsellor Jessica talks about some of the most common fears people have when beginning therapy, from opening up to a stranger to worrying about what to say. Together, we’ll explore why these fears show up and how therapy can actually become […]

Did you know there is a name for it? I didn’t know! After suffering from it for years, I should have known! I even took a class on it in college. Did it help? Not really. Probably not the best start to this blog right?  I am terrified of public speaking. I have done it […]

Okay… confession time 😅 I’m terrified of spiders. But as a counsellor, I know fear is something we can actually work through! In this video, I share how I’ve been tackling my spider fear one step (and one deep breath) at a time.

Well this is a topic that comes up often in the counselling room! And that’s also exactly what you need to know: We are all facing our own fears everyday in some shape or form, it might just appear that some of us are better at hiding (masking?) it than others.  There’s lots of things […]